Bren McGrath – BACP registered Counsellor and Psychotherapist
“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” (Maria Robinson)
RGRI Counselling Services – Real Growth, Real Insight
What is Counselling?
Counselling is a time and space for you to discuss your concerns in a safe and caring environment without feeling that you may be judged. The aim is for you to be able to explore your thoughts, feelings and behaviours with a view to making changes in your life which can improve how you feel and enable you to move forward.
Though most people will be aware of the term ‘counselling’, you may have also come across the term ‘psychotherapy’ and differentiating between these terms is useful when understanding which therapy will be best suited to you. Both counselling and psychotherapy involve talking to someone who is trained to listen and there is no definitive distinction between counselling and psychotherapy. However, in general, counselling is a talking therapy which allows individuals to deal with specific ‘here and now’ life issues, whereas psychotherapy is used to deal with ‘deeper’ issues, often with those whose past experiences are still causing them distress. It may be helpful to think of counselling and psychotherapy as being at either ends of a scale. At one end would be brief counselling to deal with a specific problem; at the other end would be intense psychotherapy to deal with deep rooted problems.
However the main factor that usually determines how successful the therapy is does not lie with the technique used, but with the actual counsellor or psychotherapist. How you connect with the counsellor/psychotherapist you choose is likely to determine how successful the treatment is. It is also helpful to have a little knowledge on the different approaches that may be used when deciding upon a counsellor/psychotherapist. There are many approaches to counselling and psychotherapy, some involve looking at past relationships and experiences to make sense of them, and others involve looking at the ‘here and now’.
The relationship that you have with your counsellor is of utmost importance and it is vital that you feel comfortable before starting work with a counsellor. It is often advised that you speak to a few different therapists before deciding who may be the most beneficial for you to work with.
Sessions are usually held weekly and last for 50 minutes. I am happy to work within a short time frame or longer term according to what your needs may be and would discuss and agree this with you at the beginning of the work. Sessions also available via Skype.
People thinking about counselling may be:
- Isolated, lonely or feeling rejected
- Experiencing feelings of helplessness or aimlessness
- Experiencing bereavement or loss
- Undergoing a personal crisis of some kind, or a major personal change
- Suffering from past experiences, maybe from childhood
- Depressed or anxious
- Experiencing marital or other relationship breakdown
- Worried about a relative or family member
- Dissatisfied with the quality of their social and working relationships
- Worried about a job, overwork or excessive responsibilities