At midlife, many people try to “make right” what they perceive to be wrong in their lives. It is the time of “correction” before they’re too old to have a choice, too old to care. It is a journey sometimes called a “midlife transition” but more often referred to as a “midlife crisis.”
Time and again, adults become jaded, dissatisfied and unhappy with some of their choices and decisions in the past, so they begin to question themselves. They also spend some time introspecting on the past and tend to wonder where their life is now headed.
Precisely, this is real and existing in most individuals, but it may not be as terrifying or overwhelming as you think it is. Though it’s referred to as the midlife crisis, it’s not literally a “crisis” for each and every middle-aged person.
Some other matters which especially take place in the minds of those experiencing midlife crisis are associated to their thinking of whether or not they have reached whatever they desire for in life, as they often feel there’s no sufficient time left for unfulfilled expectations and wishes. Some of the typical things that can occur are extra marital affairs, menopause, death of parents, children leaving home and an empty nest to handle. Different people handle these things in a different way and therefore it is important to begin to understand how these issues will crop up due to what is going on in the mind.
When adults experience midlife crisis, they must be prepared to accept the unavoidable changes and must learn how to be content and happy for the rest of their lives. The issue of self-acceptance often arises but may not be clearly recognised as such, but instead masquerade as depression, which can be experienced as debilitating and destabilising, impacting heavily on a person’s quality of life, leading to feelings of disappointment and dissatisfaction. (Refer to section on depression for additional information)
When is the right time to seek help?
If you have reached middle-age and have become aware of being dissatisfied or disillusioned with your life it may be time to seek help. The earlier help is sought the better as many of the warning signs can be very similar to depression.
Counselling is effective in helping to identify and gain insight into the issues arising from experiencing a mid-life crisis. Understanding what you are going through and what triggers it can be helpful for sufferers trying to cope with their experience.
Self-help groups and group therapy can also be of significant value; knowing that others are going through a similar experience and you are not alone. The benefits of peer support cannot be understated.